What is your relationship with money? Does it come over and walk through your door when you invite it or do you have to work hard to get it to even look your way, much less come home with you?
We use money every day in our relationships with other people so it’s a good mirror of what we view as possible for ourselves in our relationships and in own lives. There’s an energetic flow to money so that if we want more of it in our lives, it’s necessary to become aware of how we view money and what our relationship with it has been up to now. If having enough money to meet expenses or increasing income has ever been difficult – if it feels like we are coming up against an invisible wall - then there may be more than external circumstances keeping us from experiencing the financial abundance we desire.
Our beliefs about what’s possible for ourselves may be affecting our finances. And these beliefs around money will affect every area of our lives as well. To illustrate this, I’d like you to try this exercise: get out your checkbook and think about writing a check for a really huge amount. Then double that. Double that again. I want you to be thinking of an absolutely huge amount of money. What thoughts come to you as you ponder writing this check? What sensations do you feel in your body? Where do you feel these sensations? In your stomach? In your head or neck? Now, imagine going to your mailbox, opening it and finding a check for the same amount, made out to you! Or, better yet, if you have a business, imagine a happy client giving you this check. Or, your pleased employer giving it to you. What thoughts come this time? What sensations do you experience? When I first did this exercise of pondering writing the check to someone else, the words going through my head were, “No, I can’t afford that, I need to wait until I can afford it.” I felt queasiness in my stomach and tension in my throat. When I thought about receiving that huge check, I thought, “There must be some mistake, I don’t deserve it, it should go to someone else.”
Our beliefs about what is possible for ourselves in the financial realm show us our beliefs about how deserving we are in many other areas of our lives. We learn these beliefs from the adults around us. What were you taught about money as you were growing up? Many of us were told that
|
|
we need to work really hard for our money and that we need to hang on to it tightly when we get it. My parents grew up during the Great Depression and often told me that we couldn’t afford whatever I was asking for or that I needed to wait until I had enough money to buy something, no matter how long that took. Hearing these messages over and over, I grew up feeling that I was undeserving and that I needed to wait for what I wanted. This resulted in me waiting for all sorts of things I wanted, including things that didn’t require money, like finding someone I wanted to marry or having a career I enjoy.
Discovering how we feel about money is the first step to changing the beliefs we were taught growing up, in order to create the values we want to live our entire lives by.
Annie Notestein, Sensitive Soul Expression Coaching, teaches sensitive and highly sensitive women and men how to love themselves and return to soul-inspired lives. To download a complimentary guided meditation, Listening In to the Wisdom of Your Heart, go to www.AnnieNotestein.com |
