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“A new day…a new you” … it is so cliché that we have heard it thousands of times in our lives. We know that it is a new day, but is it really a new you? Do I want it to be a new me? What was wrong with the “old” me?
Each morning, each day, each moment we are given this choice…to embrace a new “me” or cling to the old. The reality is that we are never the same person that we were yesterday, or even a moment before. While we often find a security in misleading ourselves to believe that we can “stay the same”…we never are. Physiologically, our bodies are in a constant flurry of growth, renewal, aging, and change. Our minds are constantly processing our experience - logging each and every input, learning and changing.
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We are afforded two distinctive options with this process…I have witnessed both many times, as I am sure that you have. In fact, I believe that most of us have experienced both, although at varying ratios. There are individuals who literally flow with this process…appearing to have little or no attachment to who they are from one day or moment to the next. It is an openness to the process. These are the people who just always seem to “be in the flow.” It is always enjoyable being around them for me, as their mere presence can be calming and uplifting at the same time.
Yet for many of us we can get tripped up embracing the growth and the change. While there can always be a multitude of individual reasons for the resistance, the one that I have witnessed and experienced the most is Control.
Control seems to be the one that people describe the most. I witness it creating resistance to healing on all levels. Control grows in our lives without our realization. It starts from the first “mine” that we speak as we cling to a toy as a child…to many of the day-to-day decisions that we make as adults. For many, this sense of control is vital…almost as vital as breath itself. Yet, inherently we can realize that control is an illusion. We are afforded the control of choice at every single moment. While in the present moment, we are always given choices. Yet, in a broader scheme, none of us really have any control. We cannot control others, we cannot control our external environment…weather, machinery, nature, and ultimately we cannot control our fate/death. One of the challenges I pose for our Stress Recovery clients is to explore this concept of control, and more importantly to make peace with the concept that we do not have control over anything but our own individual moment-to-moment choices. Coming to peace with this concept has been a keystone in many journeys that I have witnessed. When this level of control can be handed over, the rest gets much easier.
Releasing the control of yesterday allows you to embrace the today. Know that you do not have to become a completely “new you.” In fact that would take away the beauty of the growth process. The idea instead is that you get to choose to keep that which serves the real you…and add onto it with the new you that gets to grow today!
May you choose to grow with Peace and Light!
©Vanessa Cayle, 2009
Vanessa Cayle, MSPT is a physical therapist and owner/director of the CranioSacral Institute of MI, LLC. She teaches and presents craniosacral therapy and Frequency Specific Microcurrent (FSM). She actively treats clients, teaches, lectures and oversees numerous wellness-focused groups at her Shelby Twp. office and abroad.
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