Holi-daze

By Barbara Badolati-Cini

My first bundle of holiday merchandise catalogs began arriving the week after Labor Day. That same week I saw the lit wire-framed lawn deer on display (along with many other holiday decorations) at my neighborhood drugstore. Remember when we thought the commercialism before Thanksgiving was atrocious? I once read a quote, “All I want for Christmas is my sanity.”

Since the holidays do show up at the same time every year, we have an advantage to keeping our sanity. We can make better choices with our money, activities and traditions. We can make better plans to stay reasonably balanced with our health and our time. Rather than let history repeat itself, use the past to recreate this year’s season for peace, love and joy.

Family

Yes, we do spend more time with our families during the holidays, and yes, there are usually some challenges which arise. Whether it is a negative one-liner, or someone drinking too much, or the family tug-of-war (deciding which family you celebrate with), there are ways to rise above it. Remind yourself that you will not reform your relatives. Mentally prepare yourself to detach, use humor when you can, communicate your boundaries, and practice humility. It’s easy to be an angel when nobody ruffles your feathers.

Expectations

This year, decide which 5 traditions are the most important to you. If you have a partner or children, ask them the same. Let go of anything you don’t enjoy doing. If you feel guilty, get over it. After all, ‘tis the season to be jolly! Some traditions can be simplified, such as making a party mix rather than twelve dozen cookies, or calling a friend whom you would normally send a greeting card to.

Time and money fall under expectations as well. Remember, you are a Human Being, NOT a Human Doing. Learn to say no gracefully, and extend this freedom to others as well. Give the gifts of solitude, listening, laughter, or a sincere compliment. These don’t cost a dime and are invaluable.

Self-Care, a Gift to Yourself

The busy holiday season tends to put our wellness practices on the back burner. I know this can be tough, but keeping the holiday goodies to a minimum allows you to still enjoy them, but not over indulge. Since I’ve sampled many Christmas cookies in the past, I know which ones are my favorites, and those are the few I’ll eat. Just by eating smaller portions at parties or holiday meals can keep your weight in check. In January, you’ll be glad you did!

When it comes to your physical activity, don’t be a ‘December Drop-out.’ You may not be able to keep the same time commitment or regular routine, but continue to do what you can… even if it is just a 10 minute walk! Exercise, yoga, dancing to carols is a perfect antidote for the stress-filled season.

These next few suggestions hardly need to be mentioned, and yet amidst the hustle and bustle we forget them. So, here is a gentle reminder to get enough sleep, be outside at least one hour a day, drink in moderation (if at all), practice deep breathing, and play with children. Children are one of our most joyful connections to Spirit. The holidays invite us to be a child again, to connect with Spirit, to celebrate life and hold our vision for peace. I wish you all of these.

Barbara Badolati helps people live healthy and vibrant lives. Sign up for her free Well-Being tips at www.aliveandwellbarb.com. Barb is a professional speaker and has recently recorded her first CD, “Sleep in Peace, Wake with Joy,” also available on her website.